I See. I Like. I Blog.
People have criticized me about trivial stuff like my taste in food to a more serious issue like my personal lifestyle. Some would break it to me gently, others, not so gently.
So which treatment do I prefer?
It depends I guess, on the subject-matter, who’s at the receiving end, or whether you’re in public or at home. Things like that. And I apply this ‘rule’ both as the giver and receiver.
I am more inclined towards the soft approach though, rather than brutal honesty. I guess I am the touchy-feely type who likes to see people being treated nicely. Applying tact and kindness is the more appropriate way to speak our minds. It’s an effective tool to communicate your point while allowing the guy on the receiving end to still feel good about himself. It’s kind of like, keeping the crime scene clean, with minimal blood stains on the carpet where everybody gets to live to see another day.
But in case you feel the need to be blunt, if the situation calls for a you-asked-for-it response, then by all means, say it. Say what you have to say, but do so honestly, without malice or hidden agendas. Be direct in your criticisms without being rude or insulting. Honesty is always a virtue, and I believe people will respond kindly to a comment that is made honestly and sincerely no matter how bad it hurts them to hear it.
Whichever way, I will try to take to every comment that comes along, subtle or brutal, with an open heart and an open mind. And I hope you will do the same to mine.