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How are you at receiving criticism? Do you prefer that others treat you with kid gloves, or go for brutal honesty?

People have criticized me about trivial stuff like my taste in food to a more serious issue like my personal lifestyle. Some would break it to me gently, others, not so gently.

So which treatment do I prefer?

It depends I guess, on the subject-matter, who’s at the receiving end, or whether you’re in public or at home. Things like that. And I apply this ‘rule’ both as the giver and receiver.

I am more inclined towards the soft approach though, rather than brutal honesty. I guess I am the touchy-feely type who likes to see people  being treated nicely. Applying tact and kindness is the more appropriate way to speak our minds. It’s an effective tool to communicate your point while allowing the guy on the receiving end to still feel good about himself. It’s kind of like, keeping the crime scene clean, with minimal blood stains on the carpet where everybody gets to live to see another day.

But in case you feel the need to be blunt, if the situation calls for a you-asked-for-it response, then by all means, say it. Say what you have to say, but do so honestly, without malice or hidden agendas. Be direct in your criticisms without being rude or insulting. Honesty is always a virtue, and I believe people will respond kindly to a comment that is made honestly and sincerely no matter how bad it hurts them to hear it.

Whichever way, I will try to take to every comment that comes along, subtle or brutal, with an open heart and an open mind. And I hope you will do the same to mine.


8 comments on “Handle With Care: WHAT DID YOU JUST SAY TO ME…?

  1. bkpyett
    September 25, 2014

    What a gentle soul you are Raja! Sounds like you’d be fair in your job too, even though there must be instances that would test this resolve! 🙂


    • raroto
      September 25, 2014

      I’ve bitten off a few heads in the past but found they leave a bitter aftertaste in my mouth. I have since switched to ‘organic’ 🙂
      Thanks for dropping in Barbara ❤


  2. Anonymous
    September 26, 2014

    This was perfect, Engku. The right mix of everything; such good advice for anyone.

    Liked by 1 person

    • raroto
      September 26, 2014

      Thank you kindly Anonymous! 🙂


  3. joatmon14
    September 26, 2014

    I feel exactly the same way, I think. My problem in the past is NOT telling someone something because I was afraid it would hurt their feelings, which is probably the worst thing to do….or not do. Great post!

    Liked by 1 person

  4. raroto
    September 26, 2014

    I try not to be too vocal, so as to avoid any unwanted repercussions. Never can tell what’s going on in people’s head sometimes.
    Thanks for your comment joatmon14 🙂


  5. missfinnie
    October 25, 2014

    As they always said, as you grow older, you’ll grow wiser. Truth hurts, of course. But I found that as I grow older, I can manage criticism rationally, although sometimes it does hurts my feelings..
    But for me to criticize others, well, I’m with you in this, maybe it’s the Malay in us :p

    Liked by 1 person

  6. ChristineR
    November 12, 2014

    I’ll remember that, Raja, if you should ask for my honest opinion – I won’t ‘piss in your pocket’ as we Aussie boguns might say!

    Liked by 1 person

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